No matter how many books you read about parenting, nothing can truly prepare you for this wonderful yet terrifying responsibility. You are responsible for someone’s life, you are the one who should help them develop and grow into healthy, self-reliant, happy individuals and you are the one who needs to make tough decisions. This can be more than overwhelming, especially for first-time parents without any help. There will be a time when you’ll think you’ve failed and that you aren’t a good parent. Every parent experienced such moments, but they’ve managed to overcome them. They’ve become stronger, more self-confident and resilient parents who do everything they can to love, raise and educate their children, and you can do it, too.
1. Cherish the moments
Children will bring an infinite amount of happiness in your life and some of it will be hidden in passing moments. There will be a time when you’ll be so busy that you’ll barely see your kids, especially when they become adolescents immersed in their own search for identity. However, you shouldn’t criticise yourself for all the occasions you weren’t there. Instead, soak in every moment, no matter how insignificant it may seem. The sight of them eating breakfast in the morning, the way they pout when they’re angry or even the sound of them arguing. Time flies by, but if you learn how to truly be present and cherish the little moments, years will seem like an eternity. Try to embrace slow-parenting, don’t try to rush their childhood with countless activities and take everything as it comes.
2. Learn to be a great role model
Parents are everything to their children, especially when they’re young. You are your child’s safe haven, protector, hero and a role model. At an early age, children greatly identify with their parents, which means that they imitate their behaviors, adopt their habits and acquire their attitudes. Although it will be difficult to do the right thing every time, keep reminding yourself that you need to be a positive role model to your children. Therefore, you need to be careful about what you say, what you do and how you do it because, sooner or later, you’ll see your children behave in the same way. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you need to be perfect, but try to learn from your mistakes. Take responsibility for your actions, don’t hesitate to admit you’re wrong and learn to resolve conflicts calmly. Practice what you preach and your children will grow into responsible, well-behaved and kinds adults.
3. Attain financial stability
Every parent wants to provide their children with everything their hearts desire. However, modern economy has placed enormous pressure on parents, especially in developing countries. Parents often give up their own small pleasures to make sure that their little ones have warm clothes, great toys, the best education, a great birthday party and other amenities because their smiles matter the most. Barely making your ends meet isn’t so burdensome when you don’t have children. You know that you can cut some of your expenses until your next paycheck. However, such uncertainty is terrifying when you have children. Even if you have regular, steady income, there are always some unpredictable expenses. Fortunately, with numerous opportunities that the Internet has brought, you can easily boost your income. You can always take up online positions, such as virtual assistants, graphic designers, web developers, writers, etc. For parents with busy schedules, completing paid surveys online is another great way to increase their savings. Surveys won’t take up too much of your time and all you need to do is share your opinion on certain products and services. Once you’ve built up your savings, you won’t have to worry about money as you will be able to afford anything to your children.
4. Don’t lose sight of what truly matters
As a parent, you’ll be forced to do things that you don’t really want to. Doing laundry after a hard day at work, organizing toys that will be a mess in a few minutes, cooking meals that your kids don’t want to eat. It can seem pointless and in vain, but the truth is that you’re doing it for the happiness and well-being of your family. Your children will be able to grow up in a healthy, safe environment and eat homemade meals even though they would rather drown in ice-cream. It’s important that you see the big picture and how certain dreary tasks can actually contribute to your family.
5. Keep re-evaluating your beliefs
Some of your beliefs are overt and others are covert, but they will manifest themselves in your behaviors, attitudes, and reactions. Considering the fact that most parents instill their own values and beliefs into their children, it’s important that you keep re-evaluating and facing yours. You don’t want to unconsciously pass certain values onto your children only to realize that they are actually silly or wrong. Therefore, it’s of the utmost importance that you re-examine the accuracy of your beliefs and don’t shy away from changing the way you see the world.
Becoming a resilient parent is important both for you and your children, so don’t let the challenges overwhelm you and keep working on yourself.